A Death Doula for Parents Who’ve Lost Pregnancies & Children
Surviving the ultimate heartbreak
No parent should ever have to outlive their child. Nonetheless, child mortality has been part of the human story from the very beginning. Origin stories the world over, describe this awful reality that no degree of civilization or technological advancement can eradicate.
I’m not an expert in child loss, but I’ve been pregnant 10 times and have three living children. My third child is my rainbow baby — a child born after a pregnancy loss or infant loss. As a result of my experiences as a birth doula and having lost so many pregnancies, I’ve recently embarked on a death doula journey. Specifically, I am here to help women and families affected by the loss of pregnancies — regardless of whether they had a choice in the matter.
Pregnancy loss takes a horrendous toll on the human spirit no matter the circumstances. Miscarriage, abortion, stillbirth, early infant death — there are myriad guises and the impact is inevitably indescribable pain for those closest to the child. For those who would judge a family for choosing to end a pregnancy I say “judge not, lest ye be judged”. Rape, incest, lack of resources to raise a child, or a human who knows they are ill-suited or ill-prepared for the responsibility of parenthood are all valid.
